The late, great Jimmy Buffet’s “A Pirate Looks at Forty” was released in 1975, five years before my birth.
The song is about a washed up 40 year old drug smuggler, reflecting on his life, believing he was born too late. He expresses longing for a past that is no more and uncertainty of what the future holds.
Buffett, who died last September, seemed to have a knack for living in the moment. Most accounts indicate he possessed a true zeal for life and embraced each new day as an opportunity.
Buffett understood the Dali Lama’s belief that nothing could be done with yesterday or tomorrow. Living takes place in the now. Last week (January 4th) I celebrated my 44th birthday. The day was good. I didn’t run behind at the office.
I watched our oldest son, Pratt, play in a Jr. High basketball game. And I enjoyed a wonderful dinner with Hannah and our three boys.
Throughout the day, friends and family texted thoughtful birthday wishes. All good stuff.
No, I’m not a pirate, but 40+ years of walking around lends some perspective and forces some reflection. How did I get here so quickly?
Are the years gaining speed? How is it possible that my oldest child is only 3 years away from leaving our home?
One friend sent a meme pointing out the fact that 1980 and 2023 are as far apart as 1937 and 1980. While that math seems fuzzy, it’s becoming harder for me to hide from the fact that my race is at least half run. Time to start shopping for a sports car?
Another friend further confirmed my situation, saying, “The past holds more than the future now.” Gee, thanks. In this coming new year, I’ll attempt to make the most of today, avoiding regret and worry while leaning into grace and hope. And as we race onward, let us remember Buffet’s advice: “Go fast enough to get there, but slow enough to see.”
And don't forget to floss.
-Clint Fulks, D.D.S.
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